Why do they Cheat?
Sometimes, Answers are really simple and we just tend to mix our emotions to them and here is where they get complex.
Firstly take this million-dollar advice,
Don’t take them back. They left you just because They thought they found something better, so they shall almost definitely do it again.
Go ahead and follow their idea, and find someone better than Them.
Trust this, excellent advice.
If someone leaves you for someone else — or you discover that someone already was getting their Excuses and reasons to Quit, while keeping you 100% in the dark — that person will certainly do it again.
Do you really want to risk some Shit, Again?.
There are just some people who, when things turn bad, start looking for someone — well anyone — who will be there weeping pillow so they can make their exit, leaving their partners behind.
This is, of course, extremely dishonest, but that’s what you get for trusting someone.
They made the choice to throw everything you had away and risk it for a Someone, They knew for short amount of time.
That was the risk They took.
They should know better that you won’t be there to take them back because who’s to say this won’t happen again?
Someone having Crushes are normal while in relationships it’s whether you act on it and are willing to throw everything away for this one chance.
They felt that everything you had was worth giving up/ throwing away for this person. Don’t let them come back. Even if this same person comes back things will never be same.
Just because shit smells good, you don’t eat it. Do you?
Again, supremely excellent advice.
This describes the typical case of the pole-vault affair , the exclusive province of cheaters — where the cheating partner makes themselves available to other people, anyone, until someone bites, giving them the attention they craved but couldn’t get during a tough time in their committed relationship.
Ordinary decent people in committed relationships develop crushes all the time — the difference between them and dishonest cheaters is how they respond to the crush.
Ordinary decent people understand, and they work problems out with their partners; if there is an unsurmountable problem, they will seek to end the relationship first, before finding comfort in the arms of another person.
The cheater, on the other hand, distances themselves from their partner while making themselves available to others — that is, either signaling to or pursuing other potential partners — until someone bites.
This someone is usually fake and desperate type, who couldn’t get anyone else, not even from the bottom of the barrel. That’s why they get attracted to someone fake and broken in first place.
Un-surprisingly ,right ?
In that category we have people who are repulsive,
Who are extremely insecure.
who are frequently considered vulnerable by others.
This explains quite well how anyone who has seen an affair unfold, often notes how disgusting the “other person” is, compared to the cheated partner.
This category of “other people” just can’t get any good person to be with them, because they just don’t have or offer the value (as people, as partners, as confidantes, you name it) that good people would instantly recognize and be attracted to.
But they are really too good at faking being Genuine person but eventually there real Face shore up. Sometimes too late but they reveal how Fake they really are.
If you think about it… someone willing to lie to and cheat on their partner, and someone who is pretending to be a knight in shining armour when its just another leach but actually they are perfect match for each other — none of those two are capable of giving themselves self-worth that they don’t have to begin with.
Crucially, often it is said that the cheater “should not be blamed” because “it just happened”, or “I couldn’t help it”, or “I wasn’t aware that this was happening”.
This is a common myth, The truth couldn’t be further from that.
It need not be the case that the cheater be consciously aware of what he/she is doing — on the contrary, this process is entirely Subconscious . It is only actually people who are conscious and self-aware of their feelings, that don’t succumb to them, when their feelings would make them do something wrong.
It is in fact consciousness and self-awareness of one’s own emotions and reactions that is the prerequisite for self-control.
That’s very much right. This feat is accomplished daily by millions upon millions of people in committed relationships, who will face temptation everywhere they go.
What distinguishes good people from low-quality people isn’t how they act when they are happy and fulfilled. It’s how they respond when temptation appears. Low-quality people lie, cheat and betray. Good people do the right thing.
Unless you have a severe mental disorder, it really isn’t all that out of the ordinary to do the right thing.
Still, why do people cheat?
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